It can be tough to know the difference between a true and fake friend initially. However, once you know the difference between the two, you ought to try to make friends and keep them.
Maybe making friends is hard for you because you’re shy or naturally silent. Even if you’re not shy, it can be tough to speak with people you do not know well or who make you feel nervous. The fact is, most teenagers feel shy some of the time and some feel shy a lot of the time. There is nothing wrong with keeping to yourself when you don’t feel like speaking.
If you wish friends, you have to be friendly. That means being thoughtful and kind and learning how to talk and listen. Talking without listening isn’t really a conversation in any respect. It is just exercising your mouth and voice. If you do not hear the person you’re talking to, you aren’t likely to create or keep many friends.
Another way of getting friends is by sharing. Once you start discussions, keep them going by telling others something about yourself. Other kids are more inclined to talk about themselves if you share something about yourself.
Lastly, to be friendly, you should speak kindly to others and of others and be considerate. Saying things like please, thank you and excuse me is quite important. It also means showing respect and treating people the same way you’d like to be treated.
Sometimes you might need to be assertive, and sometimes you may even have to talk to individuals in a powerful voice to stop them from doing something harmful. But even then you can be polite. Polite, respectful talk is one way to exude kindness.
Kind talk is more than that too. Kind talk is going out of your way to help others through your words. It means giving words of support to individuals who are lonely or sad and giving sincere compliments to others. It is possible to show friends that you care about them through your words.
Kind talk is incorporating kindness to a person’s life with your words, especially when they do not expect it. However, it can even be more than that. It may also be incorporating kindness through your activities by doing favours for others.
By taking these steps, you’ll be learning how to make and keep friends. But you will also learn who can be trusted with your friendship and who can’t. Both are important to be assertive and self-confident.